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Page 1 of 4 What Does Friendefits Mean?
The Urban Dictionary defines Friendefits as (Sexual favors granted to you by someone who is only a friend (but a friend with benefits).
Dude, she's cool and we've been best buds forever, but we never dated or anything. But man, the friendefits are pretty damn good!! Hum could it be that The Swinging Lifestyle and Friendefits are kind of one and the same but with a few more variations. Most people that are in the Swinging Lifestyle make many friends and know that 80% of it is more about being friends like-minded people and enjoy the social aspect it has to offer.
What is Swinging?
First off Swinging is not cheating. Anyone that thinks it is clearly does not have a clue. Its about being honest and trusting each other. Swinging is social and sexual intercourse with someone other than your mate, boyfriend or girlfriend, excepting the traditional one-on-one dating. It may be defined as recreational social sex. The activity may occur at a swing party, a couple-to-couple encounter, a liason, or with a third person in a threesome. Though single men and women are involved, it is primarily an activity of couples.
Why Would Any Of Us Swing?
Many couples are sexually aroused at thought of having sex with multiple partners. They find swinging improves their relationship, both sexually & emotionally. Swinging can open up many aspects of relationships, both as friendships & romantic relationships. It is refreshing to develop open relationship with people who have similar interests & attitudes.
Other couples & singles just feel that sex is a natural & enjoyable part of being human. Sex, then, is a natural part of friendship between these open-minded adults. These are people who are really can say, "Let's just be friends" & "Friends can have sex," in the same breath.
Swinging brings a lot of communication & openness to a relationship. Many couples find they are closer after they begin swinging. There is no need to keep feelings or desires to oneself. Every aspect of your feelings & preferences can be shared with your partner. They find that not only does their sexual knowledge of each other expand, but their emotional knowledge & communication ability as well. Many couple feel that sharing these intimate acts, fantasies and turn-ons with your mate is a tremendous stimulant.
"If we are really supposed to restrict our good feelings, then we should restrict how many roses we smell, how many sunsets we see, how many barbecued chickens we smell, how many warm baths we take, how many chocolate cakes we eat, how many pine forests we walk through, how many symphonies we listen to, and how many friends we have. For these stimulate us too. They turn us on. They arouse us and make us want to live life to the fullest." - NASCA Guide to Swinging
What Are The Diffrent Swinging Styles?
Voyerisum
Watching another couple during sexual relations. Many swing clubs have a transition or common play area where this takes place. Many times this is many times a couples starting place for swinging as it provides a place for fantasy to add spice to a couple's relationship & allow them to have fun without the risk of disease or jealousy.
Exibishionist
This is where you and your partner have sex together only. But then enjoy allowing others to watch you during sexual relations. This also adds a lot of spice to a couple's relationship.
Girl/Girl
Normally this is for Bi and Bi curious females. Each couple allows the girls to experience sexual relations but only between the girls. The male haves do not participate with anyone other than their own partner. Many times this is also an interim level before a couple has the comfort for Full Swap.
Soft Swinging or (Swap)
May include foreplay with other partners, sometimes including oral sex but no vaginal penetration. Can add spice to a couple's relationship & allow them to have fun without the risk of jealousy or intimidation. Many couples start out as soft swingers as they first explore swinging. But don't think that soft swingers will always convert to full swapping.
Open Minded
Normally swingers label themselves this for one of two reasons. First, they are open to try most things within reason providing the chemistry is there between all involved. Second, They are still new and trying to find their comfort areas so they are open minded and willing to experiment as their personal comfort level and chemistry level is in check.
Full Swap or Same Room
Partners swap & have sex in the same room, or bed. This includes orgies & is great for exhibitionists & voyeurs, who can show off or just enjoy watching their partner play. Some people find open swinging allows for total release of the sexual desires & fantasies. In order for open swinging to be successful, none of the members of the group can be jealous.
Closed Swinging
Partners swap, but have sex in separate rooms. Closed swinging allows for a more intimate experience. Some people feel it allows them more freedom to explore & fewer interruptions of their enjoyment.
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